It has long been claimed women are the better care givers and the preferred choice to care for the children. The 'pressure' is from the notion, from other women on the whole, that women can 'have it all'. There is a need for minds to be made up here.
-
-
Replying to @OldSparky6 @JuliaHB1
That is nonsense. If women are better, it's because they're socialised at a young age with toy dolls etc., whereas men aren't. But no one is born knowing how to parent. I would be terrible at it, and know men who are brilliant.
3 replies 0 retweets 5 likes -
Replying to @RMCunliffe @JuliaHB1
I didn't say they were better. I said 'we' have been told that and in recent years too. So, 'we' have been socialised to accept women are better at it, and on the whole they are for obvious natural reasons. The exception proves the rule?
2 replies 0 retweets 1 like -
Replying to @OldSparky6 @JuliaHB1
I always prickle at "obvious natural reasons". It's so often code for lazy stereotypes. We have been socialised in that way. And that's something for individuals to challenge, if they want to, not accept.
4 replies 0 retweets 1 like -
Replying to @RMCunliffe @JuliaHB1
It's not a stereotype. Biologically mothers are biologically programmed to be better at the nurturing. That's not to say fathers can't do it, just that they are perhaps not programmed in the same way and it doesn't 'come naturally'
1 reply 0 retweets 0 likes -
Replying to @OldSparky6 @JuliaHB1
Ouch. Dismissive of fathers for not being biologically nurturing, and stereotyping all women in the process, thus insulting both. No thank you. It doesn't "come naturally" to women either. We have to learn it. All parents do.
1 reply 0 retweets 0 likes -
Replying to @RMCunliffe @JuliaHB1
I wasn't dismissive, so don't put words in my mouth. I'm a single father. Look up some psychological evidence. I used the word perhaps. Look that one up too https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-caregivers-handbook/201204/man-the-fixer-woman-the-nurturer-the-caregiving-gender-gap …
2 replies 0 retweets 0 likes -
Replying to @OldSparky6 @JuliaHB1
Great that you are such a good parent. I mean that. But that's an opinion article, not a study. It has lines like "The biggest challenge for Larry is that men are providers, protectors, and fixers. That's their biological programming", with no science behind it.
1 reply 0 retweets 0 likes -
Replying to @RMCunliffe @JuliaHB1
Of course it's an opinion. However, why is it that in the vast majority of cases, custody/residence is given to the mother in the family courts? I'll tell you. It's because mothers are seen as the best bet for the children to be taken care of in the round, putting aside extremes.
1 reply 0 retweets 0 likes -
Replying to @OldSparky6 @JuliaHB1
I am actually for more equal custody arrangements. Saying this now because MRAs always come after me saying feminists don't care about fathers' rights. Well, this one does. (And now, lunchbreak. Later.)
2 replies 0 retweets 2 likes
Loading seems to be taking a while.
Twitter may be over capacity or experiencing a momentary hiccup. Try again or visit Twitter Status for more information.