Er, actually, it’s the women who choose to do the childcare because - and this will blow your mind - most women quite like being around their kids.
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Replying to @JuliaHB1
I'm sure some (even most) do. But you're suggesting 1) men don't want to spend time with their kids (bit harsh!), and 2) the social pressure on men and women to give up work to raise kids is identical. It isn't. As evidenced by my awful ex boyfriends.
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Replying to @RMCunliffe @JuliaHB1
It has long been claimed women are the better care givers and the preferred choice to care for the children. The 'pressure' is from the notion, from other women on the whole, that women can 'have it all'. There is a need for minds to be made up here.
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Replying to @OldSparky6 @JuliaHB1
That is nonsense. If women are better, it's because they're socialised at a young age with toy dolls etc., whereas men aren't. But no one is born knowing how to parent. I would be terrible at it, and know men who are brilliant.
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Replying to @RMCunliffe @JuliaHB1
I didn't say they were better. I said 'we' have been told that and in recent years too. So, 'we' have been socialised to accept women are better at it, and on the whole they are for obvious natural reasons. The exception proves the rule?
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Replying to @OldSparky6 @JuliaHB1
I always prickle at "obvious natural reasons". It's so often code for lazy stereotypes. We have been socialised in that way. And that's something for individuals to challenge, if they want to, not accept.
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Replying to @RMCunliffe @OldSparky6
The human race would never has survived without the maternal instinct. I will never understand young women fighting against basic biology as if it’s a bad thing. You can enjoy being a mum as well as having a career. Relax!
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Replying to @JuliaHB1 @OldSparky6
I guess I just have more faith in men than you do! Of course you can enjoy being a parent and have a career. I just don't think that's specific to women.
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Replying to @RMCunliffe @OldSparky6
No, my husband is a wonderful nurturing father but neither he nor I would have wanted to him to take parental leave when our daughter was born. Socialising plays a role but mothers play a special role in babies’ lives.
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Replying to @JuliaHB1 @OldSparky6
I know what you're trying to say, but that implies the children of male gay couples lose out. Which is a bit reductive.
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Of the few gay couples I know with kids, they have taken on quite traditional male and female roles in the family, which is interesting
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That prob is more a result of “traditional” division of child-rearing tasks, than “basic biology”. And I think “maternal instinct” is a gender-specific name for a set of characteristics (e.g. nurturing) exhibited by some men and interestingly not all women, so
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