Yes! Which is why more men need to get comfortable with the idea of reducing their hours to help with childcare. Every boyfriend I have ever had has automatically assumed his future wife's career would take the hit, while he continued as normal.
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Replying to @RMCunliffe
Er, actually, it’s the women who choose to do the childcare because - and this will blow your mind - most women quite like being around their kids.
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Replying to @JuliaHB1
I'm sure some (even most) do. But you're suggesting 1) men don't want to spend time with their kids (bit harsh!), and 2) the social pressure on men and women to give up work to raise kids is identical. It isn't. As evidenced by my awful ex boyfriends.
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Replying to @RMCunliffe @JuliaHB1
It has long been claimed women are the better care givers and the preferred choice to care for the children. The 'pressure' is from the notion, from other women on the whole, that women can 'have it all'. There is a need for minds to be made up here.
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Replying to @OldSparky6 @JuliaHB1
That is nonsense. If women are better, it's because they're socialised at a young age with toy dolls etc., whereas men aren't. But no one is born knowing how to parent. I would be terrible at it, and know men who are brilliant.
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Replying to @RMCunliffe @JuliaHB1
I didn't say they were better. I said 'we' have been told that and in recent years too. So, 'we' have been socialised to accept women are better at it, and on the whole they are for obvious natural reasons. The exception proves the rule?
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Replying to @OldSparky6 @JuliaHB1
I always prickle at "obvious natural reasons". It's so often code for lazy stereotypes. We have been socialised in that way. And that's something for individuals to challenge, if they want to, not accept.
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Replying to @RMCunliffe @JuliaHB1
It's not a stereotype. Biologically mothers are biologically programmed to be better at the nurturing. That's not to say fathers can't do it, just that they are perhaps not programmed in the same way and it doesn't 'come naturally'
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Replying to @OldSparky6 @JuliaHB1
Ouch. Dismissive of fathers for not being biologically nurturing, and stereotyping all women in the process, thus insulting both. No thank you. It doesn't "come naturally" to women either. We have to learn it. All parents do.
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Replying to @RMCunliffe @JuliaHB1
I wasn't dismissive, so don't put words in my mouth. I'm a single father. Look up some psychological evidence. I used the word perhaps. Look that one up too https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-caregivers-handbook/201204/man-the-fixer-woman-the-nurturer-the-caregiving-gender-gap …
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