In most families, men and women agree between them who is going to work longer hours at work and who is going to care for the children. It’s almost as if we have choices.https://twitter.com/juliahb1/status/960475962130554880 …
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I'm sure some (even most) do. But you're suggesting 1) men don't want to spend time with their kids (bit harsh!), and 2) the social pressure on men and women to give up work to raise kids is identical. It isn't. As evidenced by my awful ex boyfriends.
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It has long been claimed women are the better care givers and the preferred choice to care for the children. The 'pressure' is from the notion, from other women on the whole, that women can 'have it all'. There is a need for minds to be made up here.
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That is nonsense. If women are better, it's because they're socialised at a young age with toy dolls etc., whereas men aren't. But no one is born knowing how to parent. I would be terrible at it, and know men who are brilliant.
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I didn't say they were better. I said 'we' have been told that and in recent years too. So, 'we' have been socialised to accept women are better at it, and on the whole they are for obvious natural reasons. The exception proves the rule?
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I always prickle at "obvious natural reasons". It's so often code for lazy stereotypes. We have been socialised in that way. And that's something for individuals to challenge, if they want to, not accept.
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The human race would never has survived without the maternal instinct. I will never understand young women fighting against basic biology as if it’s a bad thing. You can enjoy being a mum as well as having a career. Relax!
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I guess I just have more faith in men than you do! Of course you can enjoy being a parent and have a career. I just don't think that's specific to women.
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No, my husband is a wonderful nurturing father but neither he nor I would have wanted to him to take parental leave when our daughter was born. Socialising plays a role but mothers play a special role in babies’ lives.
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Surely it's a no brainer to look at who earns more in the household and who can practically reduce hours and decide they look after the kids? That's what we did and I'm the primary carer whilst also running my own business. Not difficult.
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And anyone who's spent 15 seconds sharing child rearing knows that women are actually a bit better at it, for lengthier periods anyway.
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A lot of women don't find the idea of a stay at home dad sexually appealing?
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