Yes! Which is why more men need to get comfortable with the idea of reducing their hours to help with childcare. Every boyfriend I have ever had has automatically assumed his future wife's career would take the hit, while he continued as normal.
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Er, actually, it’s the women who choose to do the childcare because - and this will blow your mind - most women quite like being around their kids.
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I'm sure some (even most) do. But you're suggesting 1) men don't want to spend time with their kids (bit harsh!), and 2) the social pressure on men and women to give up work to raise kids is identical. It isn't. As evidenced by my awful ex boyfriends.
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It has long been claimed women are the better care givers and the preferred choice to care for the children. The 'pressure' is from the notion, from other women on the whole, that women can 'have it all'. There is a need for minds to be made up here.
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That is nonsense. If women are better, it's because they're socialised at a young age with toy dolls etc., whereas men aren't. But no one is born knowing how to parent. I would be terrible at it, and know men who are brilliant.
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I didn't say they were better. I said 'we' have been told that and in recent years too. So, 'we' have been socialised to accept women are better at it, and on the whole they are for obvious natural reasons. The exception proves the rule?
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I always prickle at "obvious natural reasons". It's so often code for lazy stereotypes. We have been socialised in that way. And that's something for individuals to challenge, if they want to, not accept.
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The human race would never has survived without the maternal instinct. I will never understand young women fighting against basic biology as if it’s a bad thing. You can enjoy being a mum as well as having a career. Relax!
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Or, you pay for childcare if you'd like to make that choice... We try to explain to our kids that their lifestyle is a direct consequence of us both working full time, and therefore not being around for every 20 minute story session at school.
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Maybe they care more about the 20 minute story session than their "lifestyle"...
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That's not what they tell me when they're playing their sports, having their music lessons, and going on their holidays.....
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In my experience, many stay at home mums spend a lot of time trying to get away from their kids and moaning about them.
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Many women don't enjoy maternity leave as it done now because their world completely changes and often leaves them isolated.
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Best few months of my life.
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Haha! Few months. How luxurious! Lucky you.
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Not every woman (or man) gets the choice to work part-time. They have to work full time. What is your point?
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Those people are, indeed, lucky enough to have choices. But that is not the reality for many families. A mother of school age children with no additional child care does not have the ability to work a full day in a traditional, 9-6 environment.
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Only if her earnings don’t cover the cost of the pre and post school childcare, which is unlikely given that many schools offer clubs and she can team up with other mums to help each other out.
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Support your assertion that it is “unlikely” that her earnings would not cover childcare. Because the reality is that this is frequently not the case. Even in “white collar” roles, many people in this situation would be income neutral or even income negative.
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It seems to me that you have not actually researched childcare costs/average earnings before making this statement.
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