Whenever I give career talks, I always tell young women to prioritise having a family by 30 or risk not having one at all. Just being honest
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@JuliaHB1 gives a "career talk", talks about babies.
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@SeasideCB yep, I advise them on their careers but also about how they balance work and family since most women want both. Give them facts
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Most people don't realise that you can't wait til late 30s to have babies. Fertility falls off a cliff after 35 and IVF mostly doesn't work.
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@PootBlog fertility decreases over a woman's entire life but decreases far more quickly on average after 35. 90% after 2 years is a LONG...
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So what's wrong in giving young women the facts and letting them make their own decisions rather than risk desperate sadness of infertility?
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@JuliaHB1 rather than leaping in earlier than they want maybe women wanting to delay a bit could just get their tubes checked etc? -
@IrenaBarker no!!!! Fertility isn't just about your tubes, it's also the quantity and quality of your eggs. We need to make it possible dor -
@JuliaHB1 oh yes, sorry that's what 'etc' meant- tubes and eggs and all that, and don't forget the sperm quality -
@IrenaBarker but you can't really know what quality your eggs are until they are fertilised and by then it can be too late.
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Oh, and by the way, telling me that you or your wife has a baby at 39 does not mean the statistics about average fertility are untrue. FFS.
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@JuliaHB1 What is also wrong is first-time mums being made to feel bad because they can't breastfeed. Coz you're a "hero" if you breastfeed. -
@sunbeam007 who makes them feel bad? Load of nonsense! -
@JuliaHB1 So I imagined those posters in the maternity ward? Or my wife in tears? -
@sunbeam007 why would advice to breastfeed if you can be an attack on your wife if she couldn't do it? Only if you CAN, surely? -
@JuliaHB1 Because some nurses become insistent to breastfeed to the point that the mum thinks she is letting her baby down. -
@sunbeam007 well, mums should try breastfeeding until certain it isn't working but I agree nurses shouldn't have pressurised your wife x -
@JuliaHB1 The posters annoy me more. My wife has been in the NHS for 17 years, she was shocked by her treatment. Normally I'd expect her to
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@JuliaHB1 Isn't it the 30 number that is controversial? Seems a bit on the low side... -
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@PickardJE no, fertility going down through your 20s and a lot quicker from 30 then plummets at 35. Most are under illusion all ok until 40 -
@JuliaHB1 Turns out you're right, according to my research (ie rapid Googling of the subject). -
@PickardJE I'm always right, didn't you get the memo?!
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