Women can't take on the gamble of "either my niceness is going to help this guy or they're going to read too much into it and it could lead to violence." Women being included in "everyone needs to be nicer" really rubs me the wrong way when we keep being mowed down.
Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe some people are just born inherently evil, and the moment they do wrong they should be isolated immediately, but I think everyone has the ability to do good and to do better. I think turning into an incel or a Peppe is slow process, a death of 1000 cuts