One last Ranty Panda Steve thing. Can we just not with the "everyone knew anyway" thing? Like, as something in isolation from the K-Space
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ordeal, "everyone knew!" is not an appropriate reaction to "I'm gay" because it trivialises the whole ordeal of actually coming out.
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It implies dismissiveness, not the supportiveness you THINK you're putting across.
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It kinda ranks up there with "oh but you don't LOOK gay!" as Something You Shouldn't Say To A Gay Person.
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Going "we all knew!" makes minds race in a myriad of ways. Who knew? How many? How long? Did you talk about it? Gossip? Laugh? Joke?
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Did you place bets on when we'd come out? Or how? Coming out is, it's like this important step on one's journey to being
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The Best You That You Can Possibly Be! and you wresting that from us and going "pfft!" makes it all about you and YOUR reaction.
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Some of us don't have the luxury of accepting families either. There's people out there with ultra religious/just generally gay-hating
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parents, if it's obvious to you, is it obvious to them? What's gonna happen next? Is the hammer gonna fall?
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(my parents are fine with me, but I know some people who have been disowned and whatnot)
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Basically, there's definitely a more supportive way you can react; do that instead. Even if it's a shrug and a "cool beans dude" because
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that at least makes me feel accepted and like nothing's gonna change except I might talk about Hot Boys more.
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(this shiz is kinda applicable for whatever "coming out" as well, whether it's bisexuality, or someone's going to transition, etc etc etc)
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