If every incel somehow got a girlfriend, the net violence in the world would only go up. Because guys who think like this are violent to their girlfriends. It's not their singleness that's dangerous; it's the way they think about women.
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I should clarify. "Incel" is a specific group, not all involuntarily celibate men. Incels have entitled and violent beliefs about women. I don't know too much on it yet and maybe that's a good thing!

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"Incel" was actually coined by a woman who ran a blog & semi-support group for people regardless of gender who were celibate but didn't want to be, and acknowledged that often it's about learning social skills (among other reasons). Then misogynists hijacked it & became men only.
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This is a thing that frustrates me. I’ve read how “incel” was also used and useful in the trans community. I can recall uses of the phrase “friend zone” that did not accuse women (but which were about the idea of self-presentation).
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I think there are many mentally ill or socially challenged people for whom it is useful to acknowledge some basic principles with or about. One is that they need to be attteactive and explicitly ask out people appropriately, which is hard.
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But explicitly asking questions is key to affirmative consent. Also: many people’s awkwardness or status (esp. financial class, trans, etc) can interfere with ability to form relationships. Relevant to not just dudes but disadvantaged PoC, single moms. Celibacy snowballs.
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Yes, trans or gender non-conforming ppl can have trouble finding partners even if they have good social skills, esp in small towns or remote areas, as can physically disabled, mentally ill, autistic, socially awkward or low self-esteem folks, or folks in tough situations. Not…
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everyone who is involuntarily celibate for long periods is misogynist or dangerous to partners, and all deserve to have a supportive community, just preferably not one that encourages hostility, objectification, and violence as the ones using "incel" label now so.
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False. He made a post on his Facebook page.
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Whether the driver was an incel or not doesn't change the fact that the term and a self identifying group have been brought to attention. Learning more about the information is in way a bad thing.
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sure, but most mainstream info about this "group" is basically myth, so we all just got dumber and found new witches. and a fiction writer can't see past that, which is my biggest issue.
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I don't look at it as witches. I don't believe overt violence is a majority threat. I'm reading posts from self proclaimed incels for information. It's interesting & sad to me. And these aren't just since the Toronto attack. Many comments are opposed to the narrative.
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You mean male feminist!!
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I don't know what male feminist means. I don't even like the term feminist because there are different meanings and agendas.
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He was not. The Facebook post that pretended that was made after the incident. It was a hoax that idiots in the media fell for because they wanted to beleive it
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That is not correct. The post was authenticated due to concerns it was fake.
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I thought the incel thing wound up being a 4chan prank?
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My understanding is the men identifying as part of incel also are frequently 4chan followers.
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