I don't want to remove trans health care. I want health care for dysphoric people to be improved. Not all dysphoric people benefit from transition: many of us were irreversibly harmed by it. Detransitioners are living proof that affirmation only is dangerous. We deserve better.
Also, if she's receptive to it, try talking to her yourself: tell her your concerns and see if you can get her to open up about her past trauma. I hope she gets better, it sounds like she's dealing with a lot.