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Nobody ever asked her how she was. Nobody ever checked in to see how she was handling the loss of her youngest daughter. People just kept saying “good for her,” while she cried herself to sleep after looking at my baby pictures. 4/8

My mum didn't question or challenge me because she didn't want to lose me. The gender clinic had no such pressure. It was their job to question and challenge me – to evaluate my (clearly) poor mental health and treat me accordingly. Instead, they handed me HRT and surgery. 5/8

I'll never forget my mums face when I showed her the result of my double mastectomy. She physically recoiled, but then pulled herself together to support me. But I'll never forget the horror in her face when she saw her physically healthy daughters bloody, bandaged chest. 6/8

Today, my wonderful mum is still by my side, and has been equally supportive of my detransition. But I'll never forget the pain I put her through, the expectations I had – that she forget her beloved daughter and welcome her new son without question. 7/8

The parents of trans people receive so little support or compassion. It is not transphobic for you to grieve, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I used to say “I'm still me!” but I wasn't. Transition changes you, and your loved ones will be the first to notice that. 8/8

You’re going to get sick of my questions soon. My daughter has no siblings here, but does at her father’s. Lots of parents I know have siblings affected. Do you have any and have they spoken with you about the effect on them ?

I made this account specifically to talk about these things, so ask away :) I have a sister. We were close pre-transition, but it hit her very hard and we drifted apart. We had a sisterly bond, so when I transitioned it devastated her. She cried a lot but tried to be supportive.

Anything I could say to my same sex attracted 15 year old daughter who wants surgery at 18? We were very close until this all started a year and a half ago and now