Meg  🐝

2~ My mother lost the first love of her life, in a freak accident, while she was pregnant with his child when she was just 20 yrs old. She was so devasted from the death that she recongnized she was unable to care for her baby, so she put him up for adoption.

3~ Unfortunately, she never was able to grieve in her own way when it happened. It has been 30+ years and she still tells me she feels so guilty and stupid for missing the loved one she lost.

4~...That its been so long and she should just get over it (repeating what past abusive partners have told her when she felt depressed about his death.) Let me summarize to you what I tell her: I'm not an expert by any means but grieving is a deep complex emotion

5~..that can be experienced in so many different ways. Many of us will feel this grief for a lifetime. On anniversaries, special days, birthdays, when you smell certain cologne or see an old photo. Dont let someone convince you that what your feeling isnt valid,

6~ let yourself be sad, let yourself miss them. And PLEASE dont shame someone who still shows signs of grief years after the death. Watch your loved ones who have had someone close to them die, remember those important days, check up on them, let them know you are there for them.