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So, I "peaked" my therapist this week. That post got a lot of likes. Cool. But I want to explain a bit further because I feel the urge to make an important distinction. Detransitioners generally have 2 options with therapy:
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I'm moving soon, so my relationship with this therapist is coming to an end. After thinking a lot about it, I decided that I deserve the right to talk about this thing that has really thrown my mental health for a loop.
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The conversation came up naturally, after talking about my orientation and how I've struggled with that. Then, I got into the "why" of how my orientation has been hard for me to come to terms with because of my upbringing and because I was navigated towards transition,
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as opposed to accepting and loving myself as a lesbian. And, even more so, being able to embrace myself as a more masculine woman (something I'm only now starting to be able to do).
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Okay, so, back to the point- I became a little angry that I've had so much pressure from therapists when I want to talk about my trans history and how I live now, and all of the difficulties that come with it. I felt like it was a disservice for me to not be able to talk
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about these things in my private therapy sessions. That's why I broke open. She was very kind and receptive. Her being a masculine lesbian helped a lot in her understanding me, I think. She did ask me why I don't ID as nb, though, which I gently addressed.
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Yes, I "peaked" her. But, I also think that it's difficult to have a genuine relationship with someone if you're too focused on changing their mind. I understand that it can be frustrating to have these things you're so passionate and knowledgeable about, that others ignore.
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But I really want to point out that, while I was trans, I was a true-to-form TRA. I preached the Good Word of killing the "old self." And, in doing so, I went out searching fir "lost souls" in order to convert them. The relationships I made through that were so easily lost once
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I changed my perspective on some things. Because those relationships were ultimately based only on being in an echo chamber. We all deserve healthy discourse, to be challenged in our views, and to be given the opportunity to question and possibly change what we believe.
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My point is, I think "peaking" in intimate relationships can, at times, be a good and bonding thing. But we shouldn't make it our jobs, necessarily. I'm not at all saying "be quiet" about your beliefs, but learning to be okay with having people in your life who think differently
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is imlortant for our own personal growth, even if those relationships fade because of a lack of shared passions.
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Anyway, I hope some of this has made sense. Sorry it was so long, I just wanted to shine a bit more light on where I'm coming from.
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