I mean the way it is used in feminism to argue that women do most of it and this is a serious inequality which needs to be addressed. It's essentially a whine about something subjective and so difficult to argue with. But the conversation largely moved on from this.https://twitter.com/allycinnamon76/status/993510314023976960 …
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Perhaps some of this is socialised but I suspect much of it is not and it is within every individual's power to decide how much 'emotional labour' they expend on someone else's behalf so I can't get too worried about it as a gender equality issue.
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I am not very gender-typical in this regard and have been criticised for being 'emotionally unavailable' (not doing enough emotional labour on other people's behalf & not being very receptive to being subjected to a lot) but I feel strongly that this is something ppl must accept
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So I did rant about this on and off for a while, particularly the assumption that people have a responsibility to emote & share emotions at the will of someone else. I have argued that you have no more right to someone's thoughts & feelings than you do to their body.
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This seems counterintuitive to a lot of people who do seem to think they have the right to know what their partner, particularly, is thinking and feeling on demand and also that they listen to their thoughts and feelings on demand. Or that this sharing is done very often.
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If that is how your relationship works, that's great. I wouldn't knock it. But if one partner is regularly objecting to this or failing to live up to your expectations with regards to it (and, let's face it, it is more often men accused of this), you'll need to work something out
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And that something isn't automatically that s/he must immediately start doing your preferred degree of 'emotional labour'. In same way, the partner with the higher sex drive doesn't get to give specs to the one with the lower sex drive (which, let's face it is more often women).
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Maybe you're incompatible and will have to accept this but maybe you accept that you are different and find a compromise which works for both of you, rather than making a political issue out of that difference.
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