I'm just thinking this through coz on the one hand, I hate the 'Go educate yourself' thing but, on the other, I don't want to have to explain the basics of everything with evidence to everyone. When do I have that responsibility? When I am making an argument I want them to accept
It's not unreasonable at all. It would be unreasonable to call her a hypocrite if she recommended reading & declined to explain it to you.