This seems practical but I don't like this at all. This can happen organically but arranging it seems to miss the point. And it just wouldn't work for many couples. I had a man argue this to me in a really ruthless way. 1/2https://twitter.com/mlowry/status/981846564611219457 …
He was coming from an angle where he believed that women exploit men because men work more & earn more money but women spend more money. He wanted contracts where the person who earns less is indebted to make up the difference with domestic work paid at unskilled labour rates.
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Apart from the fact that this seems like a really unhealthy relationship, it just wouldn't work. I can earn three times as much as my husband an hour but my job is sedentary from my own home & his highly physical and requires travel.
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So, I can earn more than him by doing half the hours he does. If I were to do that, should I then be a part-timer and have much leisure time & then tell him how much housework, cooking & childcare he owes me when he gets in tired and hungry?
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The man said, 'yes' - he thought this would be fair but I think he was doubling down due to gender ideology. It clearly would not be fair in a relationship where people work together. (In reality, he earns a little more because I don't work much coz I want to write)
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Of course, people can be selfish in relationships. One of my friends often complains of her husband doing none of the housework despite them both working full-time. I would not tolerate this for a minute. She does. I raised the issue once and then minded my own business.
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His attitude seems like the male equivalent of Perez’s rant. Each side feeling exploited and not seeing the big picture.
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It's either a partnership or it's not. If someone is not pulling their weight, then there's a discussion to be had, but to formalise that in a contract sets an adversarial tone to a relationship that would eventually kill it.
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