I am wondering; why does Perez think that an employer should pay someone for work that said person isn't doing for them? Last time I checked employers paid you for the work you did for them, not for your partner or family. Unless she's proposing that spouses pay each other...
-
-
-
...but that's edging towards a radically different kind of arrangement involving paying the person you have sex with. Here's the thing; you don't care for the people you love because they pay you. You do it because you love them. The "we should be paid!" attitude is sociopathic.
- 1 more reply
New conversation -
-
-
People like Perez make a whole bunch of assumptions that ignore relationship dynamics and assume choices are not made willingly between two partners. Which is wholly ignorant.
-
indeed. if I do it gets done poorly because my idea of clean is completely different to the missus. so what ends up happening is I do incremental clean ups as I have more time to but it's never spotless and then she finishes off and makes things all nice when she has the time.
-
in her mind, I never do any cleaning. in my mind I clean all the time.
-
This is real issue, perception is not fact. People like Perez have a perception of a situation that has no bearing on reality then try to manipulate data to back it up through cherry picking and ignoring data that counters their perception. It's gaslighting on a societal scale
End of conversation
New conversation -
-
-
I don't really consider it unpaid tbh. If one partner works and the other stays at home tending to things there, their "pay" is the financial support earned by their partner. As Helen put it, we all have choices about these things and we can work it out with our partners. It's
-
Not exactly hard, and nobody is forcing slave labor lmao. I don't understand why it's a big deal, myself. I've always been more housewifely because of my disabilities and as I can't work, I'm more than happy for that to be my contribution so my partner has a clean home and a hot,
-
Home cooked meal to come home to after a hard day of work. It's a division of labor that works very well.
-
And there's absolutely nothing wrong with it if you're both happy with the arrangement.
-
Exactly. I don't get why people are making such a big deal out of arrangements like that; yes they're 'old fashioned' but so what? LOL
End of conversation
New conversation -
-
-
Also, it's not as if the man hordes all the wealth he gains from all this glorious man's work. He uses it to support the household and provide for his children's future, at the expense of his family life. I don't undertsand this take that covets working all your life.
Thanks. Twitter will use this to make your timeline better. UndoUndo
-
-
-
Wage $ are essentially a rough translation of a fraction of your added value during the time you worked. Farmers don’t pay themselves for plowing or tending the herd, but would negotiate a wage for a hired hand. Likewise with household chores, lest we be on Downton Abbey.
Thanks. Twitter will use this to make your timeline better. UndoUndo
-
-
-
Is she proposing the government pay women somehow for the unpaid house work?
Thanks. Twitter will use this to make your timeline better. UndoUndo
-
-
-
Usually the partner who works & earns more outside the home contributes more financially to the family. This can take the form of an allowance to the one who does more housework or child rearing. If necessary, couples should write up a contract for this.
@HPluckrose@CCriadoPerezhttps://twitter.com/HPluckrose/status/981839582110117888 … -
If you obsess about making everything 50/50, both ppl lose. Both should respect what the other brings to the relationship & cohabitation. Showing appreciation/being supportive comes in many forms.
-
Well said! A happy home isn't 50/50, it's both people doing as much as they can for the team out of love for each other!!
-
Obviously written contracts are only for relationships that need them. Most of the people who need them won’t realize it at first. Sadly, many relationships that begin equitably evolve (or devolve) over time to become somewhat less magnanimous.
End of conversation
New conversation -
Loading seems to be taking a while.
Twitter may be over capacity or experiencing a momentary hiccup. Try again or visit Twitter Status for more information.