Well I'm trying my best to introduce new ways of thinking and talking about this, but you and Helen are resisting that attempt. :) As long as we go either everything is socially constructed or nothing is, the game is up. See Hacking The Social Construction of What.
It's a bit like when theologians keep insisting that everyone return to the theology to see why say, 'Jihad' is not violent. They might be technically right but, in the meantime, violent jihad is happening & we need to use the word that way to address the problem.