Well, no. Then you'd have to keep getting married and divorced unless you only wanted to have sex with one person for your entire life. I think most women would prefer unwanted advances that having that expectation on them. You know, because of the wanted ones. https://twitter.com/YeyoZa/status/953266858337144832 …
It's another form of removing agency from women by claiming they just shouldn't have to deal with it in the first place. Why do you think we're more worried about young women struggling to say no to sex but not about them struggling to say no to lunch?
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I think it's because there is a moralistic emphasis on sex that there isn't on lunch and to a large extent this is innate but we don't need to validate it. Whatever it is you really don't want to do, have the confidence to decline it.
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Or if you don't really mind that much and think the social networking benefits outweigh the costs, have the tedious lunch or uninspiring sex and don't let anyone else tell you you can make that decision for the former but not the latter.
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I didn't like the lunch comparison--it's a bad one. But there's a definite wariness, among feminists, to avoid anything that borders on the conservative. Advising young women to just not go back to the man's apartment is seen as treachery/slut shaming when it's a good strategy.
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Why do you think so? She obviously saw it that way and so do I. I agree with the second bit but it wasn't what I was disagreeing with.
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The lunch comparison? Perhaps because I am not terribly sociable and have always been able to say no to lunches I don't want. Same with a lot of women I know. The sexual pressure feels far more powerful and difficult to contend with.
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Ah. I'm very unsociable too but female friends have always been more essential to me than boyfriends so I've felt under more pressure to do social stuff I hate from women so as not to cause offence and lose friends than sexual stuff with men.
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