Yes. Appropriate display of anger. On inanimate object that is unharmed rather than on people. I have also been known to bang doors when cross. Usually kitchen cupboards.
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Replying to @HPluckrose
And does it escalate to throwing things next? Where's the line when rude & destructive displays of anger are tolerated? Is cursing at you next? You've already shown a tolerance for rudeness. Why shouldn't she?
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Replying to @SolarisRex
She knows where the line is. For us, slamming her own door is on the right side of it. Being abusive or violent to people is not. I don't want to have to stop showing anger when I feel it and feel directing it an inanimate objects in her own space is appropriate.
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Replying to @HPluckrose @SolarisRex
This is what we've always told her, anyway. There's nothing wrong with having feelings only with unleashing them on others. Take them into your own space, throw your own stuff around. Come back when you're calm and ready to be around people again.
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Replying to @HPluckrose @SolarisRex
That also enabled me to go and have some calm down time when I felt at risk of losing my temper with her.
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And this I understand more than you can know. I have three girls. Each is almost 2 years apart, & the middle is autistic. There were many times I had to put them in their cribs and go outside. I understand that, and don't think less of you for it.
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Replying to @SolarisRex
Mine is also somewhere on the ASD. Well, no, its the right thing to do. Go away. I also close the door and say 'fuck, cunt, bollocks, wanker' etc to relieve feelings and come out again. Sometimes I slam a door.
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Replying to @HPluckrose
Small aside, I love British swears.
I agree it's better than directly hurting someone, but you have to admit that there's uncontrolled anger, and violence, in the act. Even if it's an inanimate object, it's still unhealthy. Is slashing tires ok bc it's an inanimate object?1 reply 0 retweets 0 likes -
Replying to @SolarisRex
Yes, if that's what you've bought them for. If that it what helps you release anger. I don't think it is uncontrolled. She wasn't possessed. She expressed anger appropriately. A foster carer I read smashes old plates with her troubled kids
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Also, the smashing old plates sounds like it's done in a controlled environment being led by the carer in a directed manner. That's the same as my daughter burning her drawings. I supervise the destruction.
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Yes. Do you think I should direct the door slamming? I;m not sure its necessary. She's unlikely to trap her finger in it. And mostly going to the room means wanting to be alone.
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