Explicit attention to physical details is one way, man to woman, a reversal would imply that the man is attractive, a recognition that would derail the traditional gender dynamic.
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I constantly get compliments on my haircut or clothing from female coworkers, and it’s possible that no “derailing” occurs because I’m openly gay. But I also get compliments on my clothes from straight male coworkers. Does that “derail” the workplace dynamic?
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I don't think so. Often women refrain from complimenting straight men's appearances and feel a little uneasy if they compliment theirs because of men's tendency to overinfer sexual interest & potential for misunderstanding. You are safe in that regard.
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My friend was explaining a much more straightforward dynamic among gay men!https://twitter.com/citation_needed/status/936844669907898369 …
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Ha! That is definitely accurate, at least in some circles. I just find it interesting that I get compliments from straight men, who for whatever reason never worry that I will “over-infer” their meaning. (I mean, this isn’t some kind of mystery or anything...just interesting)
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It is interesting. They probably aren't accustomed to worrying about this whereas women learn to be careful not to give the wrong message. I find it very positive that your straight male colleagues are not worried that they will be misunderstood for complimenting a gay man tho.
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I think it’s good, but in some ways it also illustrates how much of a psycho-socio-emotional minefield this whole area is quite independent from the sexism / gender-relations aspect of it. For example... (c)
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Situation: very hot straight guy I’m bonding with decides to show me the scar from the bullet wound when he was in the service. Fine, but the scar is on his ass. He thinks nothing of dropping his pants to show me because it’s “just guy talk” and we’re bonding.....
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Speak to me civilly if you want to discuss. I don't respond to people who tweet abusively at strangers.
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Aw. Poor baby.
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I compliment men and women in equal measure. I see no problem in telling a man that he’s wearing a nice suit, an interesting tie, or that he’s wearing a pleasant type of cologne. Most men seem to genuinely appreciate it.
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Yeah. I have no problem complimenting clothes either. It's bodies that get awkward and are probably best avoided, I think!
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I'm a dude and I'll tell a guy that they're wearing nice clothes or looking particularly sharp. My male friends do it too. It's just a nice thing to do to anyone.
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It’s also a good conversation starter. “I love those shoes! Would you mind telling me where you got them?” And off it goes.
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I just can't imagine what is wrong with adding some positivity to someone else's life. Life is difficult, so let's at least be kind to each other. ...And *as if* people buy nice clothes for them to not be noticed.
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So true. Smiles and kindness are free, so there’s really no excuse to not give some.
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There's a girl in my class who often gives such compliments, and the only times I find it uncomfortable, it's when it makes me jealous of some other guy, not when she compliments me... I mean how can you not like compliments?
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Of course I'm intj, but "nice shirt" or "nice tie" have been known to cross my lips...
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