Both are important. You don't have to neglect children to also have an intellectual/professional life. Give kids some space too! They don't want helicopter parents and its not good for them. Have your own life and let them have theirs.
Get some balance. Both men and women (usually) need family life and an outside intellectual/professional/vocational life. They can still have kids and spend much time with them! Having two incomes got us a house in a nice area near a good school & savings for our kids' future.