Then why marry? Why pretend to be part of something you don't really believe in? So you can say you're married?
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I married because I wanted to make a lifelong commitment. Rituals around marriage vary.Asking the father's permission wasn't important to us
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You're own marriage (if you have one) must have broken many traditions around marriage. If someone asked you why you bothered?
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I got married in the same place as my parents. I had the vows. My father gave me away. I had bridesmaids. I wore this:pic.twitter.com/qPWfEMeeRF
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Have you read Jonathan Haidt's A Righteous Mind. It explains why traditions seem so important to conservatives & not to liberals.
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No I haven't.
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Relationships are a personal thing. The Dutch have a saying: Op ieder potje past een dekseltje. Every jar has a lid that fits.
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And it seems to me, that thos is the beauty of people & relationships. Having to follow a strict code seems boring & joyless.
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It's classic SJW co-opting: "Hey, can I join that cool thing you have? But first, you gotta change a lot of it because I don't like it."
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Thing is, you don't have to change that thing. You can just find the person that wants the same thing Other ppl can change it all they want
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Then it's not marriage. Call it something else. "The Super-Super Cool Couples Agreement" maybe? I wish you have a long and happy agreement.
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Marriage is literally the legal joining of 2 people. How much ritual is involved does not effect the legal bond. Rituals change per culture
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Rituals are a personal thing and just like culture, Nobody owns it.
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So what gives anyone the right to decide it needs changing? And marriage is not simply "the legal joining of two people".
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I never took my husband's last name. We'll be married 11 years next month.

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Me neither; we're on 27 years. I'll take my father's name, but that's it. If I had my mother's name, I'd change it, but that's a dif story.
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I so respect your civil m.o. even in the face of obnoxiousness
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