People are arguing on Facebook about whether it's sexist for a man to ask his girlfriend's father's permission to marry her.
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Especially when they themselves are discussing it and making an opposing argument.
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I feel like other people's marriages are none of my business whilst ideas around marriage itself are something everyone can discuss.
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And this applies more widely. Sometimes what individuals do is of concern to everyone but more often it is an associated wider idea that is.
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In the same way, I seldom like to discuss other ppl involved in the things I talk about but general sets of ideas flying about.
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It gets messy when you focus on individuals. Because they are complex & ppl read them differently depending on other things & likeability.
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I've felt the pull to read people I find likeable more charitably than people I find dislikeable & I think this hard to avoid.
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Also, it gets personal more widely than the person being discussed coz ppl feel loyalty & take criticism of some1 they like more personally.
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'I dislike the idea that...' is easier to take than 'I dislike what this person you like said or did' or 'I dislike him/her.'
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