I have read but can't remember where that women are more likely to make encouraging expressions & gestures in conversations.
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To signal their interest & engagement whilst men are more likely to reserve signals for agreement or disagreement.
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The essay said that women are likely to nod to say 'I'm listening' whilst for men a nod means 'I agree' & this can cause confusion.
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A female friend of mine who has some quite noticeable communication difficulties said she got lost in conversation coz by time she'd thought
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of a relevant contribution, the conversation had moved on. But the problem others saw was that she didn't seem to be listening or interested
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But that wasn't it. She was thinking abt what had been said but this meant she'd stopped looking at the speaker. Interpreted as boredom.
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She had trouble making friends & I thought the best thing to do to show she was part of the conversation was to worry less abt what to say..
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...and more about looking engaged - making encouraging, interested signals. That would make her seem less separate from everyone else.
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I'd like to say this had a happy ending but it didn't. She still doesn't engage with ppl well &still has no friends despite being lovely. :(
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So basically you are saying that men are mysogynist mansplainers who will but into any conversation?
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That's just you, Chris.
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but what's life for if not to butt in with poorly aimed jokes and to annoy Helens
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See?! It's not just me.

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It's far from just you. I am a victim of relentless banter. I feel the PTSD coming on.
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no doublelock on front door, when it's a women? Sexist! (in David Brent's voice)
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