I tend to think that refusing to bow to it & encouraging others not to if they don't want to is a better way to change expectations. 2/2
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I think we've made significant progress & will make more in supporting people's rights not to live according to gender roles. This is good.
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I don't think its either realistic or ethical to try to make 'society' embrace a certain understanding of gender or of gender roles.
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Whether its socially conservative rigid ones or 'gender is an oppressive cultural construct' ones or anywhere in the middle.
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There should'nt be a 'wrongthink' on gender. People ultimately do what suits them &its making that a moral imperative for all is the problem
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It's often a self-justification. Eg 'I want to be a stay-at-home mother & also like dominant men so this is how men & women should be.'
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Or 'I hate traditional gender roles and would be unhappy living in them so they are morally wrong & oppressive for everyone.'
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Ideal to find partners with same preferences & live as you wish Then acknowledge this is what you wish, not what is morally right.
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I disagree w idea that feminist ideas dominate society & the ppl facing most social pressure are those who favour conservative gender roles
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In the realms of life choices, that is. Much more justification to say this re academia, social justice movements & leftist policy.
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Social pressure on men & women around working & parenting still seems to be largely conservative pressure.
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With mothers feeling guilty if they work long hours & fathers feeling ashamed if they struggle to provide alone.
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But there is only so much you can blame 'societal pressure' for your own feelings if you've been able to make the choice you feel right.
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It's interesting, I lost my remote job abt a month ago & I feel extremely judged & pressured for not working. I have a two year-old.
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Do you? I'm sorry. By whom?
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Mostly my in-law's and my parents. Maybe even my hubs a little but that could just be me projecting.
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:( Ah, yes, a circle. This is what I was just saying. Different in laws & parents could be very judgemental abt you working with a 2 yr old.
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I was saying it's quite easy to find a circle that shares your preferences but this isn't always going to be the one you live in. :(
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