Often ppl want to argue with a general attitude they think I have so I get v vague accusations & assertions of things I don't disagree with
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I think we're all susceptible to this. Getting an impression of someone's attitude & arguing with that rather than what they say.
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But it's very frustrating & also quite upsetting to have people constantly responding negatively but vaguely to attitudes you don't have.
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I need a strategy. Going to ask people to spell out the point of difference they perceive us to have & point to what I have said.
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…a strategy that depends on them being honest and arguing in good faith. I'm sure you can see the issue there

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It's less that I expect them to do that & more that if they don't, I will know much sooner that the conversation is pointless.
End of conversation
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Helen I think you r getting a bit harsh here. I am sure you are a nice lady & recognise the importance of not filling in gaps w/assumptions
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Cara, I am just asking you to say what you mean. I can't respond unless you do. What do you think I think that you disagree with?
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And I'm not only talking abt you. I get deluged by ppl making vague disagreeing noises w/out ever identifying what it is they disagree with.
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It takes up so much of my time. I am now asking ppl to say exactly what they see the point of disagreement to be early on or we go nowhere.
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