On the one hand, I think we do have a right to expect our partners to rely most on us emotionally, share most, be emotionally closest to us.
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On the other hand, you can't get every emotional need fulfilled by one person & expecting this leads to disatisfaction in relationships
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Also, the 'infidelity' aspect is highly subjective and always seems to come down to the potential for sexual infidelity, ultimately.
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I've always got most of my in-depth emotional support from female friends & one male friend who was gay. No male partner has ever objected.
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But if I were to have the same kind of close sharing friendship with a heterosexual man, I think this would be much more likely.
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Once a boyfriend said,'I'm jealous coz your minds work the same way' abt the male friend. On revealing that he was gay, jealousy gone.
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And how would it work with same-sex couples? Particularly women? Do other ppl see firm boundaries between couple sharing & friend sharing?
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Is the boundary between emotional closeness and emotional infidelity abt a sense of being 'in love' & does this always relate to sexuality?
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I cld see that I might find it a problem if my husband more emotionally open with another woman but harder to feel I had a right to object.
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That would seem like an unjustifiable possessiveness. At same time, I cld say I felt like that & try to fix it from my end or leave, Dunno?
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On other hand, if my husband shared more emotionally with a male friend, I'd not be threatened at all. I do this regularly re female friends
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This is all hypothetical, btw, in relation to someone else. Neither my husband nor I particularly emotionally expressive!
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Well, all of your replies indicate the same confusion I feel on the issue. Ppl talking abt all sorts of things from all sorts of angles.
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Emotional availability within a partnership is essential. Wanting to ban it outside the partnership is sick, weak, controlling.
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Yes but where is the boundary between emotional availability and emotional infidelity?
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Boundaries are set by mutual consent.
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Yes, I know. I am talking about the boundary between concepts. I agree its subjective but want to get opinions.
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My opinion is "emotional infidelity" isn't a thing.
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No? So you'd be OK if your partner shared more emotionally with someone else than with you? What about sexually?
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Sharing "More" with someone else emotionally inherently means neglecting me. The neglect would be a problem, not extensive sharing.
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I think it would be a form of neglect even if they only spoke to this other person a couple of times a week & lived with you.
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