Never telling anyone how you feel probably isn't that healthy but so much depends on the individual. Wary of telling men they have a duty tohttps://twitter.com/christianjbdev/status/855434477346148354 …
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Because a person's feelings are as much their own private property as their body is. No-one has the right to demand access to either.
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And there's a definite imbalance here where men are assumed to have agency & ability to overcome inhibitions but women aren't.
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Ppl don't often tend to say that women need to learn to assert themselves in response to claims that women get talked over in the workplace.
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Then its men who need to be more reticent & encourage women to speak more confidently & ensure that they have the opportunity to do so.
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But they do say that men need to learn to express their feelings more in response to the claim that mental illness & suicide is due to this.
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Sometimes, it's suggested that women could have some role to play in encouraging men to emote more & giving them opportunity to do so.
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But it's very often suggested that its emotional labour when women 'have' to do this & women are the victims of men not doing this.
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Obviously, this is one skewed narrative.But people who tend to talk about this make it so ideologically loaded & in a very gender-biased way
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TBH, I'm not even sure if this "men being discouraged" is a thing that actually happens. Is there any research on this?
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I'm not sure but many men have said so.Do you not think a man who cries or talks abt feelings is received less sympathetically than a woman?
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Differently perhaps. It's very hard to quantify, though.
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Seems likely that remaining strong & undaunted in adversity is something that would have been naturally selected for in men.
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Except perhaps in the case of Napoleon's troops at Waterloo, when they fled the mighty Prussian army!
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A joke about men being "strong & undaunted in adversity". Maybe a tiny bit too far fetched. :)
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But I'm not sure what you meant? How it relates?
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Exactly. Nobody should. Men or women. Plus, there are more ways to cope than tell ppl your feelings.
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Being pressed to share feelings just adds another stressor.
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Thing is, if agreeing with that article pressures men to emote, then opposing it pressures men to bottle up. Need a third type of response.
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1) Dealing with personal problems internally isn't 'bottling up' your probs. It is quite possible to have a healthy mental life despite not
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