Excellent perspective on "Boundary Setting vs Tone Policing".http://fb.me/3HTKupaDY
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Replying to @pioneercynthia
However I think we can also talk abt the most productive ways to engage with ppl to get point across & win allies.
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Replying to @HPluckrose
I know some think I go on too much abt idea of 'tone policing' but so much division & hostility comes from the way we talk to each other.
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It's not just that I think 'manners' matter coz I'm a middle-aged middle-class Englishwoman. They do matter if you want to get anywhere.
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If you read any good source on persuading ppl of your argument & winning support, none of them recommend spewing vitriol & profanity on ppl.
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Saying 'I have a right to be angry! Don't tell me how to feel. Your calm shows your privilege' doesn't actually make ranting a good tactic.
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We can be sympathetic to ppl suffering uncontrollable rage following traumatic experiences of oppression w/out advocating it as activism.
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I worry that if being critical of abusive communication styles is forbidden as 'tone policing' the Left will continue to fall in popularity
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I can't overemphasise how important I think the way we talk to people is in determining whether the Left loses the cultural war in long term
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However, I admit that sometimes when conveying this to 'Don't tone police me' ppl, my tone has left a lot to be desired.They've said so. (!)
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Apparently, I scold & lecture & this is way less forgiveable than abusing & insulting. So, less of the below. More friendly persuasiveness.pic.twitter.com/yJAXyciYxl
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