But from the perspective of condemnation, I think we need more charity & not to dismiss all self-absorbed people as egotists.
I should clarify then. Not talking abt abstract ethics but whether you can continue a relationship with someone.
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If someone actually thinks they're better than me, no. If they focus on themselves due to self-doubt, yes.
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I'm OK with someone thinking they're better than me. I'd venture to guess most people do on some level.
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On some level, yes. I'm better than many in verbal ability & nearly everyone is better than me in spatial ability.Not the point
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An egotist is some1 who thinks everything revolves around them & others less important. Compare this with miserable self-doubt
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Yeah, I totally agree there's a significant distinction between the two.
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Yes. I'm considering whether to end a friendship with some1 who will only ever talk abt himself & seems not to care abt my life
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I am leaning towards not doing so coz I think this comes from agonising self-doubt rather than genuine indifference towards me
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I think if I were to say to him that I am also a person w issues I'd like support with, he'd feel instantly remorseful. Matters
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Yeah, if someone is so self absorbed they literally can't care about others, you probably can't be friends with them.
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I can feel sympathetic towards them if its caused by self-doubt. I cannot if its caused by feelings of superiority.
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Oh, that's a difference between us. I feel sympathy either way, especially when I consider luck's role.
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In the abstract, yes. But can you really in relationships?
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Yeah, and it's required less and less introspection as I've internalized the role of luck in who we are over the years.
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So you cld genuinely have a friendship with someone who did not/could not see you as a person of worth in your own right?
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I said earlier if someone literally is so egocentric they can't care about others, friendship probably isn't possible, but...
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I do feel sympathy for such a person. Must make for a very difficult life
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