I did temper it with 'you wouldn't enjoy mine if I spoke about anything that interested me & I really want to do that sometimes." Still no.
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I don't like feeling obligated to 'make conversation.' If conversation doesn't happen naturally, its prob best to go talk to someone else.
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Many see conversation as compromise. Talk abt what interests u. Then what interests them.OK re: family whom you love but have diff interests
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But in broader social situations? Why meet up with ppl to take it in turns to talk abt things only the individual is interested in?
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It suggests that being around ppl is the purpose rather than the conversation. Fair enough if everyone's happy. I'm not & that's OK too.
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Might be a female thing? "We shld all meet up for tea as we have kids at same school. Then keep doing that even if we've nothing in common."
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No. Don't want to do clusters. Wld rather make a solid friendship with the one I click with & then see her w/out every1 else taking offence.
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I see making female friends as similar to dating. With most you meet up 1 or a few times & then stop but a few you want in your life forever
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But so many ppl are hurt or offended by this. It can be difficult to explain that you think they're all good ppl but nothing in common.
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And in fact, you usually don't get the chance anyway. Ppl just stop talking to you. Only recently I've realised this doesn't matter much.
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Am I now guilty of making a 'women are made to feel' argument of which I am so critical? XD Hopefully not. I don't demand society changes.
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I do think women are under more pressure to join homosocial clusters & attend regularly. But easy to resist if you have a few good friends.
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And I think women are more likely to form committed social groups because so many like them rather than any sexist external pressures.
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I don't get why people have a desired aim to keep in touch with people with whom they share no common interests.
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This is essentially my point but I felt it could be seen as heartless to put it so bluntly.
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If there's no interest in keeping in touch then quick and 'harsh' is better than dragging things out.
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I think so! Get told off for this. Confrontational. Aggressive. No. Honest.
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Bah. Take the telling off and ignore. It'll all be forgotten about soon unless they're part of a gossipy group. Ignore them too.
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There is a definite gendered element here! Men are more easily forgiven! But as you point out, ppl who matter won't care.
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@PaulNiland Unless they dislike your company, too. Then it clears the air and everyone's happier.Thanks. Twitter will use this to make your timeline better. UndoUndo
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