I didn't think that emotional labour was really any kind of a problem and more of a whine because women have the same power to decline to do excessive amounts of it as men do. Checking everyone is feeling OK, noticing if they're not, finding out what the problem is, listening etc
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I said I just didn't do a lot of this stuff and that this has always been fine and suggested that women who don't want to be constantly caring about how everyone is feeling should stop doing it. This would work better than blaming men for not doing it, especially as so subjective
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Then I did a year long project with three men & it all had to come to a head in a rush & everybody was very stressed & tense & I found that actually, the only person trying to make sure everybody was feeling OK & that we were all communicating & relationships were strong was me
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I suddenly really needed to make sure everyone was OK and that we were all properly bonded. I have to say it wasn't entirely clear that the others regarded this as a service on their behalf so much as an extra burden that perhaps I didn't need to be laying on them right now. XDpic.twitter.com/o3pb7J41gN
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Moral of the story. If you are doing loads of emotional labour for everybody else and feel it is unfair that men are not doing as much, check that you're not actually serving your own needs and everyone else wouldn't rather you gave it a rest & let them get on with work. XD
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The whole concept of emotional labour in this context really annoys me. It just feels so manipulative and whiny. You genuinely can just not do it. Even if people really do expect more from women, all it would take to change that would be for enough women not to do it & foil that.
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When it comes to things like being expected to remember everyone's birthday coz female, people can't hold that expectation for me for very long. I've been known to forget my own.
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Replying to @HPluckrose
Everyone has a smartphone now. No one should be expected to remember such things anymore unless you're incapable of adding stuff to a calendar.
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Yes ...you say that but then your phone for one reason or another breaks or is lost & you've failed to backup your data.
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Not anyone else’s problem. So many free cloud services these days.
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Only if they expect you to remember their birthday. But if they're going to get offended by a failure of this and stop talking to you, they're probably better gone anyway.
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