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Editor @AreoMagazine Secular, liberal humanist. Mother. Doglover. Writing book about epistemology & ethics on the academic left Helen.pluckrose@areomagazine.com

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    1. Helen Pluckrose‏ @HPluckrose Oct 18

      Helen Pluckrose Retweeted David J. Ley PhD

      Infidelity is a legitimate complaint because it requires having made an agreement to be exclusive and then breaking it. This is disloyalty and a betrayal of trust. Someone who does not want to be in an exclusive relationship should not pretend they do but be honest. However...https://twitter.com/DrDavidLey/status/1052746552236621825 …

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      David J. Ley PhDVerified account @DrDavidLey
      So now, masturbation to #porn or sexual infidelity qualify as “abuse”? This is offensive to all victims of abuse and sexual violence. https://www.btr.org/is-pornography-use-abusive-to-your-spouse/ …
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    2. Helen Pluckrose‏ @HPluckrose Oct 18

      ...(and sorry to be crude here) if someone wants a quick wank, this is absolutely no-one else's business, not even the partner's. Obv, if he is doing this to the exclusion of having a good sex-life with his partner, there could well be a problem and a conversation needed.

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    3. Helen Pluckrose‏ @HPluckrose Oct 18

      But if she is not there, not in mood or he just doesn't feel like having sex right then but just a quick wank before going to sleep or something, this is not something he should be criticised for. Especially as men often have higher sex drives than women.(Works other way too tho)

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    4. Helen Pluckrose‏ @HPluckrose Oct 18

      This seems abusively controlling. I found this chilling: "Another way of saying it is having a secret life or world while you are in a relationship or a family is a form of abuse." No, it isn't. Expect your partner to have parts of him or herself just for him or herself.

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    5. Helen Pluckrose‏ @HPluckrose Oct 18

      I hate the idea that to be in a relationship is to be owned body and 'soul' by someone else and never again having the right to private thoughts, feelings or activities. I'm not talking about deception, such as cheating which breaks an agreement many couples want. Outside that.

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    6. Helen Pluckrose‏ @HPluckrose Oct 18

      I have always appreciated that my husband always accepted my need to spend much of my time inside my own head. Of course, I am usually thinking about postmodernism, critical theory, feminism & politics; thoughts he'd really rather I didn't share with him anyway. XD

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    7. Helen Pluckrose‏ @HPluckrose Oct 18

      But other friends, creative types, have whole fantasy worlds they have created which are just for them. We all have the right to an internal world, whether intellectual, artistic, erotic or whatever. This doesn't end when we have relationships.

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      Helen Pluckrose‏ @HPluckrose Oct 18

      It's like this nonsense with 'microcheating' where you're not allowed to be friends with your ex or DM someone of the opposite sex to talk about shared interests. (Don't know how this works for same sex couples but I suspect it's mostly a hetero thing). It feels so regressive.

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        2. Helen Pluckrose‏ @HPluckrose Oct 18

          It feels like trust - emotional trust that your relationship is sound & your partner is with you because they love you and want to spend their life with you - is completely absent in people who think like this.

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        3. Helen Pluckrose‏ @HPluckrose Oct 18

          That's what will destroy your relationship, not your partner masturbating, watching porn, having friends of both sexes or having thoughts and feelings and interests they don't share with you.

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        1. Morris Dancer‏ @MorrisF1 Oct 19
          Replying to @HPluckrose

          It seems like a lot of modern nonsense is about control, both what cannot and what must be done. 'Winning' arguments not through force of reason but playing victim cards and moral preaching.

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        1. (((theophilus)))‏ @pammalamma Oct 18
          Replying to @HPluckrose

          I respect your perspective. Would just add that once there has been true infidelity in a relationship, that causes PTSD for the betrayed, which causes hypervigilance. But some people are just very jealous, I know. <3

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