i wonder how much of this mindset of "men dont worry about getting attacked" has to do with economic privilege. as someone who comes from a safe neighborhood i know i worry about it less than others.
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Nope. I live in what is not considered a safe area in London. I've never worried about being attacked whatever area I happen to be in and I think few men do/
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I always keep my hand on my pepper spray at night and I do live in a relatively safe neighborhood. If people think men are more confident, it’s because we’re trained not to admit fear.
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also cant admit whats not considered. I think a lot of the cautions men take are so normalized we dont think of it as odd.
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Might there be a correlation there wrt the outrage over women's fear? This suggests that threat assesment is more natural for men, and so when women engage with it it's an uncomfortable experience that lingers with them after the event passes. Maybe?
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Interesting idea. My theory is that with the onslaught of "ripped from the headline" crime shows and women's obsession with murder mystery I'm wondering if brains have stopped distinguishing between fiction and reality.https://www.google.com/amp/s/observer.com/2018/07/why-do-you-love-murder-10-women-explain/amp/ …
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"I wanted to know everything about these victims—maybe if I knew enough about how they were killed, I thought, I could avoid their fate."
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There's a gender role here. Men are used to the social norm that they are responsible for their own safety, and don't complain about it. Women are used to the social norm that it's society's job to ensure their safety, and complain about having to assume responsibility themselves
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Every room I walk into, I look for an exit and make sure I can see it. I measure every man for threats. If someone is walking behind me, I turn, look, and smile or nod. It's less a greeting than an acknowledgment that I won't be snuck up on. Life in Chicago. We plan.
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Since I've begun hanging out with some police personnel recently in my life I've begun to take note of doors wherever I go. Looking back on my life of basically never getting into a scuffle, I yet size up every man in close proximity to me.
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Had this very conversation with my ex and his son last night. They both maintained that every single interaction between men was underwritten with potential violence if lines are crossed. Women simply don’t interact the same way. Not for the first time, I’d love to see what it..1
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2...actually feels like to be a man for a day or a week, to see does it genuinely FEEL entirely different to be walking around in that world.
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Per the latest Crime Survey for England and Wales, last year 2.1% of men and 1.3% of women were victims of violent crime. And 74% of homicide victims were male.
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I've had more threatening experiences with women than men. One of which, and embarrassingly enough, I was the instigator during school, against a boy who verbally insulted a friend. I pinned him against a wall, and that was enough to scare him off. Not something I'm proud of.
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Other times include having property stolen and broken by girls. Being threatened in the street by a girl when no one else was around. Having male friends and relatives that have had aggressive and even abusive girlfriends.
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If I'm walking the streets and the place is eerily quiet, besides for one other person behind me, it doesn't matter their sex. If it feels like their attention is on me, I'll be nervous of their intentions regardless. Women can be just as aggressive and intimidating as men.
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Asked my mum, and she felt the same way. Strange women are just as intimidating as strange men.
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Man here, and a fairly large and imposing one. Feel plenty of fear walking to my car alone on an empty street after a late concert. Any other individual in the dark I pass could mug me or stick a knife in me and I'd have no chance. I feel fear but I also know it is irrational.
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i think that's very personal. I'm a man and kinda large too and i almost never feel any fear anywhere. i notice some friends feel it much more than I do
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Could be true because safety standard for women is higher. I mean, like, for men, some level of danger is "normal" and commonly acceptable, so nobody gives a damn, while for women, the environment is expected to be totally safe.
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