Promiscuous people are not the best marriage material.
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By "marriage material," I mean the sort of person who is competent at refraining from doing things that stress the marriage, like having sex with people who are not your spouse.
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I'm not sure that works. Someone who is a virgin at marriage is competent at not having sex. That can stress marriages as much as having sex with other people can. I'm not sure sex life before marriage says much about what it will be afterwards.
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We've been exclusive for 18 years now. Prior to this, this was very much not the case. Sowing one's wild oats can be a thing. Cheating before marriage could be a better indicator. If someone has had sex with 20 people but kept the rules of every relationship they've been in...
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Possible. I am just challenging the correlation/cause-effect assumptions of the article, which seemed to claim that preventing pre-marital sex will increase the success of marriage.
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I am challenging them too. It seems much more likely that a third factor is responsible for both choices.
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And that would be?
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Conservative, probably religious values. Would you be surprised if Muslims were overrepresented and atheists under-represented here?
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Do those values cause sexually active people to experience a higher rate of marital failure?
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Because if people who value monogamy highly are very unlikely to end a marriage, this still doesn't tell us much about whether they are a good husband/wife or have a good husband/wife.
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People who don't value monogamy are unlikely to be good husbands or wives.
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Not quite. Change "monogamy" to "commitment" or "dedication" I am in several decade+ relationships. I know others as well. Ethically non-monogamous relationships are no less stable than marriages.
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For the purposes of this discussion, I am treating marriage in it's conventional sense, as did the article that started it all - a lifetime commitment of mutual fidelity between two people. Open marriages are still rare and how viable they are is a separate issue.
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