GeniesLoki

Finding myself vaguely disappointed in the replies to "What do you like about being a man?" thread and I'm not quite clear on why.

I was too! Where are all the "dudes rock" dudes?

Yeah. I can't quite tell whether this is an artefact of how I asked the question or whether people don't actually believe this. Particularly disappointed by all the answers which are coded "I have male privilege" rather than identifying positive masculine-coded behaviours.

(Partly because it suggests that if women were given the free choice they would behave exactly like men do now and... no? I'm almost 100% sure this is not true. They would be more similar in some ways and more different in others and both things would be good)

The answers that blow my mind are like "women are luckier because they can sleep with men anytime, because women are choosier than men" I'm always thinking "do you wish you... were choosier?... or that women were less choosy than men...??"

I think there's a real thing being pointed at there which is that the default heterosexual norms of men approaching women do (especially but not exclusively in male dominated spaces) end up giving women a lot more freedom of choice than men feel like they have.