GeniesLoki

Question for non-coercion Twitter: Is bravery a form of self-coercion, and if not what's the distinction? (This isn't meant as a gotcha, I actually want to know your answer)

IFS-framed answer: it's only not coercion if the part with the fear consents to being overruled. Like, in a work meeting, "disagree-and-commit" (if done well) would not be coercion. "disagree-and-overrule" would be, if that distinction makes sense? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Disagree_and_commit …

To spell it out in more detail, the coercive version of courage would be something like: Part A: "we want this outcome" Part B: "but I'm afraid of X, Y and Z along the way" A: "well those fears are stupid and you're stupid. We're doing the thing" B: "...??!" (later) B: "aaaaaa"

The non-coercive version is more like A: "we want this outcome" B: "but I'm afraid of X, Y and Z" A: "tell me more about that?" <conversation of weighing pros against cons> B: "ok, you're right, that's really important. Let's do this. I'll let you drive this one though, A!"