Honestly, not really in general. It was probably important for this recent realisation but it doesn't normally seem to help much.https://twitter.com/GeniesLoki/status/1312456864211169282 …
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Replying to @GeniesLoki @lisatomic5
I find that interesting, because I think for me it definitely would? Hard to talk about hypotheticals here so I'm having to extrapolate along the Kinsey scale a bit. I definitely think I'd be much better at making myself more attractive if I noticed attractive things in other men
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Replying to @loudest_love @lisatomic5
Ah, well, *making* myself more attractive is a different question. I know how to make myself reasonably attractive, it's just a bit abstract and doesn't really cause me to experience myself as attractive.
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Replying to @GeniesLoki @lisatomic5
Seems to me like trying to dance when you can't hear the music
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Replying to @loudest_love @lisatomic5
Not really, because you can define intermediate goals that are more accessible. e.g. comfort in my own body will make me more attractive. Dressing well (in particular ways) will make me more attractive. Figuring out what to do with my hair will make me more attractive.
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All of those are things I can just straightforwardly do without worrying too much about whether they're "working" for the end goal.
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Replying to @GeniesLoki @lisatomic5
It's hard for me to go too deep into this metaphor as I don't know anything about dancing :P But I'd assume that small incremental changes that are definitely in the right direction are possible in both, but with no coherent vision of the larger goal there's a limit
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Like, both dressing well and doing good stuff with your hair are, I'd imagine, helped by having a good feeling for what's attractive. But you can just copy a celebrity and get 80% of the way there
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Replying to @loudest_love @lisatomic5
I really don't think you can! Celebrities will tend to have looks that are quite specific to them, and if you try to copy them without understanding why they work you'll mostly look worse than if you just did what came naturally.
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Replying to @GeniesLoki @lisatomic5
Did we just swap positions in this argument?
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Replying to @loudest_love @lisatomic5
Ha ha maybe. I don't know that I'm arguing exactly. I'm just generally a bit confused about this subject. I don't experience my bisexuality as having been especially useful in being attractive, but also I don't know what it's like to be heterosexual so maybe it is?
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