GeniesLoki

Hmm so a lot of this ended up centring around sex for me because I was kinda messed up in that regard so it was a source of easy wins. Identifying things that I want and admitting to needs is also helpful here? "Desire" is a fairly positive emotion that can be hard to admit to.

Yes good point, I am bad at expressing my desires for sure. I tweeted about something similar to this a while ago, I haven't really made much progress with it thoughhttps://twitter.com/sokindling/status/1299052215999574016 …

You could try just doing a bunch of free writing about stuff you'd like, ways you'd like your life to improve, etc? I like free writing as a way of digging stuff up.

Also, shot in the dark, but... do you feel free to express anger? I have a general suspicion that a lot of emotional reserve, especially but not exclusively in men, is learned out of a fear of hurting people if you get too emotional.

A very astute shot in the dark. I absolutely never express anger I think I see it as a kind of failure on my part of I do, like by losing self control I've lost some game.

Although you don't need to lose self control to express anger

I can think of instances where I've felt pretty strong frustration/anger and it's been physically unpleasant to keep it hidden

I must admit, shot in the dark or not I thought this was a pretty safe bet. I think you'd probably find it beneficial to figure out safe ways to express this? Maybe try something like https://twitter.com/GeniesLoki/status/1314147204630708224 … when you're angry with someone?