GeniesLoki

hmm i have "women do more therapy dor their partners then men" as a cached Truth but no examples and multiple counterexamples

I definitely have examples of it going both ways in my social circles, but my social circles are so weird I don't know how that translates to society writ large.

I would love to see data on this. This is not a complaint, but it’s been my observation that the women I know rely on others for therapy (paid and free) far more than the men. But, like you, my friends are weirdos, so who knows? Still, I’d be surprised if it didn’t generalize.

I think the core of the complaint is that women rely on others for therapy (paid and free) far more than the men but that a key part of that is that when men do it they spread it around a lot less so end up relying on one individual person more than the women do.

Agreed. I’m annoyed that I used the ‘free therapy’ label. Hill I’ll die on: friends aren’t free therapists, therapists are paid surrogate friends. I wouldn’t ban prostitution/therapy/pro cuddling/etc., but find the increasing commodification of care a sad and ominous trend.

Well, yes. https://twitter.com/GeniesLoki/status/1311205033187454977 … Though I also don't think therapists are paid surrogate friends. I think the professional distance of a therapist has some benefits that it's hard to get out of a friend too. Neither friends nor therapists are substitutable for the other.

Though if I had to pick one it would obviously be a friend.

I’ve found the distance to be useful for mediated conversations (and people without good friends), but it’s seemed like more of a liability to me in general: 1) Therapists lack context, 2) are often deceived, 3) and incentivized to pander to the client.