GeniesLoki

As a side note, I'm somewhat sceptical of the idea that it's only women who do the "free therapist" thing and think this is a thing where most couples help each other process emotions and it's more acceptable for women to complain when it's disproportionate (which it often is).

men complain too, but the standard thing for men when their so needs therapy is to leave

hmm i have "women do more therapy dor their partners then men" as a cached Truth but no examples and multiple counterexamples

I definitely have examples of it going both ways in my social circles, but my social circles are so weird I don't know how that translates to society writ large.

I would love to see data on this. This is not a complaint, but it’s been my observation that the women I know rely on others for therapy (paid and free) far more than the men. But, like you, my friends are weirdos, so who knows? Still, I’d be surprised if it didn’t generalize.

I think the core of the complaint is that women rely on others for therapy (paid and free) far more than the men but that a key part of that is that when men do it they spread it around a lot less so end up relying on one individual person more than the women do.

Agreed. I’m annoyed that I used the ‘free therapy’ label. Hill I’ll die on: friends aren’t free therapists, therapists are paid surrogate friends. I wouldn’t ban prostitution/therapy/pro cuddling/etc., but find the increasing commodification of care a sad and ominous trend.

Well, yes. https://twitter.com/GeniesLoki/status/1311205033187454977 … Though I also don't think therapists are paid surrogate friends. I think the professional distance of a therapist has some benefits that it's hard to get out of a friend too. Neither friends nor therapists are substitutable for the other.