GeniesLoki

I really wish people haven't come up with the idea of using the deep self-disclosure questions for the purposes of quickly inducing trust AT WORK

Now I have to have a public life, a private life, and a fake private life, solely for the purpose of showing it off when required to signal trust in situations when actual trust is risky

"What do you do out of work hours?" "Oh occult ritu^H^H^H I love to travel"

I wonder if people mid-ladder are "normal" simply because there's not enough time to work overtime, perform fake-private life (complete with photos), and have an actual private life. So, only people whose private life is non-controversial can do it (no the need for fake-private).

I would say that most people have significant non-controversial part of private life and then have more controversial, able to reveal depending on trust. I.e. on first meeting for a bible study I'd say 'I play boardgames' and not 'going to my first polyamory-meetup after this'.

These kinds of questions are geared towards brag rights and emotional impact. "What are you most proud of?", "When do you feel most/least powerful?", "Who do you admire/envy and why?" "uh i bake cakes sometimes? that's a thing?"

Ok, I assumed you meant the sort of 'what have you been up to over the weekend' that I find sometimes annoying, but mostly fine ice breakers at start of a meeting, your examples feel more ... icky? "when do you feel most/least powerful" - none of your business