GeniesLoki

Relationship* tool: When you are having Complicated Feelings about someone, start a document titled "Things I want to say to (name)" and write down what you would say to them if you trusted them completely. * Doesn't have to be a romantic one, though some mostly useful if close.

I just did this yesterday, and wound up with some time with that person, and it naturally came up and was super helpful. Having written it down, it was articulate on the way up. What sort of things did you write down? Questions? Things you wanted to share?

Hmm hard to explain without providing too much context but roughly "here's what my end of this positive but confusing scenario looks like and here is how I would ideally like to proceed"

Oooo, no I like that. See, my list was way more grounded in "here are things that come up for me, some confusing, some difficult." But they stopped short of articulating the need behind them, and the ideal state forward.

Also one of the things I added explicitly at the top which I think helped was something to the tune of "this is what I want but I'm providing it as information, not making a request. You are under no obligation to do what I want and we'll figure out what to actually do together."