GeniesLoki

I see, I thought you were reacting to the number alone proceed

I am a little bit. I think of 30 as the age when people start to have shit a bit more figured out and a lot of the interesting stuff really starts happening, so I'd be kinda reluctant to consider it midlife and would probably think of that as more like 40-60, but I care less.

it seems common enough that people feel 'more boring' as they get older, right? not to mention biological decline possibly if one is very career/ambition inclined, or had signif psychological problems, 30+ can seem more interesting, but that isn't vast maj of people!

for instance i feel a lot of the stuff that people mention to me about careers/goals feels trite and unromantic - an extension of youthful exam striving which at the time cooler people avoided bc it was tiresome - and now people care about these things!

Emotions don't transfer well unless you share the lived experience. What is fulfilling to a participant can be boring to an observer. If you're interacting with someone who isn't prioritising for entertaining/impressing an audience, you won't be entertained/impressed.

Example of shared lived experience: parents swapping parenting anecdotes (tedious for childless.) Shared social hierarchy is also important; you're not gonna be impressed unless you share the same values and/or understanding of what some achievement is "worth".

Yeah. I think a lot of interesting things that happen as you get older are the sort of thing where you require a certain amount of domain expertise to really appreciate them? The other sort are those that just seem kinda impossible without adulthood mental/practical resources.

there's a tradeoff between novelty-seeking and investing in something that you've laid foundations for. so I can see the "people becoming more boring" side e.g. it's harder to get older people to socialise after work because they prefer to go home to partner/children