It has only just occurred to me that my experience on something may be atypical. Men: Do you have experiences of women being bad at consent/boundaries in slightly creepy ways? e.g. touching you more than welcome. Anything where gender swapped version would be obviously creepy.
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And I guess a lot of the time it's genuinely not a big deal, but sometimes it is. Of the incidents I have in mind almost all were NBD but one I was genuinely upset about it and have modified my behaviour accordingly to avoid that situation in future.
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Both in the sense of treating the woman in question as intrinsically unsafe and also I'm never going to render myself that incapable of meaningful consent again unless I 100% trust everyone I'm doing it with. It didn't go as far as that makes it sound, but it was very unsettling.
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Some thoughts: (1) it can be flattering (2) we have physical strength to disengage (3) it’s okay to laugh off if it did not scar you emotionally (4) but i think that if they play w/ men psychology enough they can make them do unwanted things
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My ex-gf insisted on having public sex and I declined, but it made me feel emasculated. So there are consequences. Now I know I should just not give a fuck about societal expectations
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Yeah, my guess is both that the same behavior is much less harmful to men in general and also that men feel less like they can speak up when it does bother them.
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Yes, I'd agree with this, although I think it's not so much that the behaviour is intrinsically less harmful with men as that most of the actual harm of this behaviour comes from implied threat, which is both actually less and also felt less strongly with men.
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) but I'm pretty sure it's happened. I think me being big and brown particularly makes some women feel like I couldn't possibly have any issues with them touching me