I think people sometimes miss the degree to which this is a field notes account not a theorising account. I read a lot of stuff. Then I do things based on that reading. Then I tweet about it. The middle step is often invisible to you.
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I mean sometimes the tweeting about it is the doing stuff because it's emotional processing in progress, but I've got like five different other venues for doing emotional processing in and more often than not the tweets are about stuff I've at least somewhat already processed.
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I do, as mentioned, take a pretty theory-heavy approach to feelings, but where there's theory it's not because I think the theory is good and interesting it's because I took that theory and I applied it good and hard to my life and it worked great.https://twitter.com/GeniesLoki/status/1311545502215929856 …
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And you can't really skip the "apply the theory good and hard" stage. It doesn't work. It doesn't matter how much you know about feelings and self development unless you actually do the work. I'm just reporting back on what doing the work is like.
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*sigh* I wasted so much time pretending this wasn't true
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It's the single most common trap people fall into in this space by like an order of magnitude I think.
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I am still resentful that one good insight doesn't fix everything I think it's the same way in non self therapy work: you need a good idea of where to aim for AND a consistent beavering away working at the specifics in that direction. Else your work is misdirected or nonexistent
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Yeah, the insights are an essential part of the process, but the best they can do is clear some space and point in a direction.
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But it does make me feel better to realise that it's hard to get the balance right, and there are plenty of people who HAVE done good work to cope healthily with all their usual situations, but never learned to generalize. My mistake isn't an unusually stand-out failure (maybe)
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