In this tweet I will grant you a super power of great insight, at the low low cost of becoming *intensely* annoying to hang out with: Every time tells a self-deprecating joke, they mean it literally and are pointing to a deep-seated insecurity they hope you won't notice.
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I Wana go one deeper. They actually want you to both A take seriously their insecurity, B reassure then they're not terrible
Sometimes, yeah, but most of the time if you actually *do* this they will find it very annoying.
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Yeah I wouldn't totally disagree. Context matters (if the wrong other people are around) and how you go about it matters. Im actually inclined to believe that there's almost always a sufficiently savvy way to do it. But doing it wrong is worse than letting it slide prolly
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i find that it generally isn't productive to *challenge* the insecurity directly, but can be helpful to just, sit with it and listen, silently reassure moving a little closer. offer reassuring touch on a shoulder. "hey, i know it's hard" is often all you need.
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To expound on that, I think challenging someone's self-professed insecurity is invalidating. Essentially telling them they shouldn't feel that way.
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