GeniesLoki

like half the appeal is that its creepy. creepiness is a fantasy staple.

Hmm. Maybe. I kinda feel like this is a different sort of creepiness than most kinds that appear in fantasy, in that it's creepiness with more IRL implications.

Like e.g. fantasising about nonconsent with a stranger is creepy but also kinda fine. Fantasising about it with a friend seems unambiguously creepy to the point of being slightly horrifying.

(FWIW my stance on fantasising about IRL people is that I have no idea about its creepiness in some general sense but I would feel extremely creepy doing it)

is this about people you know personally or irl people in general? do you fantasize about celebrities? anime characters? not fantasize at all?

I tend to fantasise about fairly abstracted fictional characters who were created explicitly by me for my fantasies. Occasionally fantasise about celebrities. Don't find it too weird, but mostly not that into it. Same with e.g. a stranger seen in passing.

The following would both feel pretty creepy to me: 1. A close friend who is objectively very attractive but I have no sexual relationship with or intention of forming one. 2. Someone I see casually in a professional context on an ongoing basis and am friendly with

interesting, fantasies only do it for me with real people i know it feels nice, we're all having fantasies about each other, feels pretty natural it's hard to imagine that someone would be appaled that i fantasize about them here and there