GeniesLoki

My counterargument to this is literally all of fandom.

The core of slash fiction is basically an entire culture built around mostly cis het women objectifying gay men. (I don't necessarily think this is bad, but it's very much a thing)

In general (and this is partly a cultural thing that exists from moving mostly in queer poly mostly female dominated spaces rather than the mainstream, but I've 100% encountered it from random women on the streets too) a lot of the creepier behaviour I see is from women.

And the reason is basically that it's treated as a harmless when women do it, so it doesn't trigger the same external or internal repercussions. A man being creepy is a big deal. A woman being creepy is generally not, so they don't necessarily learn how not to.

Possibly we mean slightly different things? I think I'd claim the following are both true: 1. More men are low-grade creepy than women (although I have complex feelings about why this is). 2. High-grade creepy behaviour actually encountered is more likely to come from women.